Breaking the Stigma Around Female Masturbation

Luke Coutinho · December 27, 2022

Breaking the Stigma Around Female Masturbation

By Luke Coutinho Lifestyle, 2022 emotional health, female masturbation, intimacy, libido, masturbation, pleasure, relationship issues, sex, sex life, sex toys, sexual health, sexual performance, stigma, taboo, UTIs 4 Comments

We do not speak about masturbation and pleasure enough. Several women approach us and seem emotionally distressed and unhappy. After research, we realized that their issues of abrupt weight gain, the inability to lose weight, low self-esteem, insecurity, and feeling unloved correlated with the lack of a healthy sexual life.

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In the past two months, we had 14 female patients suffering from health conditions like frequent UTI (urinary tract infections), vaginal discharge, vaginal fungal infections, burning in the vagina, and pain and discomfort in the lower abdominal region which despite investigations, we could not find a root to. Several tests were conducted which covered topics of personal hygiene and habits like lifestyle, sleeping, food intake, and exercise – which also seemed fine. Their reports determining the presence of any bacterial infections were normal too.

It was then that we realized that we needed to delve deeper into the intimacies of their emotional and sexual health.

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The relevance of emotional and sexual health to holistic health

Integrative and Lifestyle Medicine considers the body and the mind to be connected and interdependent. One affects the other. After research, we have understood the importance of asking questions about sex lives and physical relationships. Several parameters connected to the patient’s health conditions had correlations to sex and how they felt about their bodies. Moreover, these women also had pent-up emotions – which research has proved over time, to be detrimental to your general well-being.

Six out of fourteen of these women were married, with little to no sex lives. Some of them had not indulged in sex for over three to twelve months – but they still wanted it. The overall dissatisfaction and other begrudging thoughts like low self-esteem and other insecurities eventually gave rise to new complications which affected their physical and emotional health.

Discussing sex is not taboo! It is natural!

Ladies! Open your hearts out and discard the stigma around sex, because not talking about sex, or how you feel about it, is causing you to suppress your emotions, which is affecting your health. Women feel awkward talking about their sex lives, fantasies, orgasms, intercourse, and the sexual dysfunctions that they live with.

Today, let’s discard another stigma – Female Masturbation

After understanding the needs of these women, our team encouraged these patients to understand the importance of, and indulge in masturbation. At first, these patients were awkward and reluctant, but our life coaches explained to them the importance and connection of masturbation and good health. A week later, these women responded with an outstanding improvement in their sexual health

Masturbation is the most normal, natural, and scintillating experience you can have with your own body, however, female masturbation is another taboo topic. Other than being highly social beings, humans are also sexual beings. This means that taking pleasure from sexual activities is natural and paramount to us. It is time to challenge these negative thoughts which have been deeply embedded in our minds since we were young, and accept that these are and should be normal parts of our lives.

Every human being has the right to pleasure and should not be discouraged by these contemptuous beliefs. Of course, the physical relationship between two people can be a respectful, beautiful, and fulfilling experience – but if you remain unsatisfied, you should explore masturbation. Besides, it is not only about pleasure, pleasure from sexual activity is also a bodily need.

Let’s put aside our fears, break free from preconceived notions, and accept absolute normalcy in masturbation.

Explore the benefits of masturbation

Releases sexual tension with an immediate feel-good effect
Orgasms release dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins, which can improve your mood and create a natural high.
Can control dependency on anti-depression medication, if the reason for your depression is a lack of healthy active sex life.
Oxytocin, which is released during orgasm, relaxes the body and mind, thus promoting healthy sleep.
Can soothe rough menstrual cramps, as an orgasm results in a uterine contraction, which helps blood flow and reduces cramps and pain.
Helps the body and mind to continue feeling sexual, even if you are not sexually active.
Maintains elasticity and strength in the vaginal tissues, and promotes healthy blood flow to the brain.
Boosts self-esteem, as masturbation encourages you to explore your body and sexuality. It allows you to discover what you might like or dislike, your pleasure points, which can then be conveyed to your partner, improving your sexual life.
The contractions released during orgasm strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.
Creates a safe place for you to envision your deepest fantasies, which might never materialize.

Hence, an orgasm is essential for the mind, emotions, and body. Arousal causes the heart rate to increase, which might cause the skin to look flushed. En route to orgasm, you are also creating muscle tension throughout the body. Once you orgasm, the muscles in your vagina, anus, and uterus involuntarily rhythmically contract, and then go into relaxation mode. This is the satisfactory and content feeling of “release”.

While reaching an orgasm, your brain is working on a potent cocktail of chemicals, including the neurotransmitter dopamine or the feel-good hormone, whereas oxytocin promotes the feeling of intimacy and empathy among others.

How can you masturbate?

You can explore a wide range of sex toys, but if you live in a country where sex toys are banned, or you do not like sex toys – go the traditional way – DIY!

Be careful of overdoing it!

We are all for exploring yourselves, and understanding your likes and dislikes, but just like too much of anything is bad – it is the same with masturbation. It can turn into an addiction and can interfere with your intimacy with your partner as well.

If you get too used to pleasuring yourself a certain way, and your partner cannot hit the same sweet spot, you might remain dissatisfied and rely entirely on masturbation to fulfill your desires.

The bottom line

Depriving yourself of anything sexual means depriving yourself of an integral and very natural part of your life. Sexual health is strongly rooted in our emotional health, and anything that disturbs our emotional health will affect our physical health with ailments, diseases, and illnesses. So, be mindful before you might be diagnosed with a condition and evaluate your sexual health and life.

If you find a gap there, fill it with masturbation, and evaluate the improvement if any. However, if you still require professional help and advice, by all means, approach your doctor.

Your relationship with your own body is your own decision to make. Do not allow misleading societal taboos to hamper this, and take charge of the natural needs and capacities of your own body.

Need to get a professional life coach to evaluate your sexual well-being? We help you find a way.

If you are struggling with seeking the right help, get in touch with our Sexual Wellness Consultant at You Care Wellness. Book your one-on-one slot here.

Reach out to us by calling 18001020253 or writing to us at info@lukecoutinho.com. Get in touch with us on WhatsApp here.