The Connection Between Childhood Experiences And Adult Problems

Many children have been stripped or robbed of their self worth and confidence while growing up. There is no perfect parent and there never will be, but its so important to understand that children need security, love , unconditional love, appreciation, discipline, assertiveness and care . Children should never be robbed of their self worth by being compared to other children, the well behaved girl or boy from next door, the child that is topping her class all the time, someone who is better than your child in sports , compared against siblings in the same family….comparison will steal even an adults self worth. Children need time, time from their parents, servants second. There is no compromise here unless a parent is sick, away , unable to be there for serious reasons…many parents think they are doing all they can for their child, spending loads of money on nurses, servants, nanny’s, and giving the best to their child, but remember , that’s your mindset, its not what the child needs or wants . Nothing can replace the love , care, time of a mother or father for their son or and daughter . Nothing at all. Bribes thru gifts, more iPad or TV time, sugary treats, pizza….nothing ,,they will consume and eat all that because it gives instant gratification, but none of it can replace what the child really needs …children protected too much, always made to believe they are right, and never wrong, never allowed to feel bored , angry or frustrated, grow up unable to face the reality and truth of the world . Parents say ‘ we want to give the best to our children ‘ continue to do that, but give them what they really need too, over and above all that you want to give them. Love, time, care, value lessons, life lessons, emotional lessons, all this is the JOB of the parent , not the school. The school reinforces it , the parents have the primary job.